It’s holiday time and it’s fun time! Eating, sleeping, playing, partying - we have lots of things to do. But unfortunately, every holiday season brings not only joy, but extra pounds too, and we so don’t need them, do we?

So, in order to shed off a couple of pounds, or at least not to put on any new ones, all we need to do is to use a couple of tips listed below. They are the 13 simple ways I usually use to keep my weight under control and I am sure they will work for you too during this Holiday season:

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While ponytails are often considered the “go-to” hairstyle for many women on a bad hair day, ponytail can be a very versatile style that will suit a wide variety of occasions and events - from a Backyard BBQ on the weekends to the Red Carpet!

From sporty to elegant – there’s a ponytail for you! Here are seven secrets that will take your every day pony to perfection…

Secret 1

Wash and shampoo your hair. Unlike other updoes, a perfect ponytail requires perfectly clean hair. Also, slightly damp hair holds tighter around the side trapping shorter layers in as it dries.

Secret 2

Straight hair works best for ponytail, so blow dry your hair straight with a blow dryer that comes with a concentrator attachment. For naturally wavy or curly hair, apply straitening balm to damp strands.

Secret 3

Left, right and center… decide on whether you want to part your hair in the middle or if you’d rather wear side ponies. Badgley Mischka designers prefer to style their models with a side ponies with side-swept bangs; while Jill Sanders, Ralph Lauren and Versace prefers ponytail with middle part for their runway models.

Secret 4

High or low ponies. Try experimenting with higher or lower ponytails to achieve different looks. High ponies are famous for providing women with “mini” facelifts by putting tension on the face and emphasizing on the cheekbones while low phonies tend to be more sophisticated, modern and sleeker style.

For High Ponytail:

Put your fingers at the crown of your head

Gather up a large section of hair (about 3 inches wide by 2 inches deep)

Tease it on the underneath to give it volume

Run your hairbrush over this section lightly

Pull hair into a ponytail just above the middle point at the back of your head

Secure with a hair-covered elastic or wrap a strand of your hair around the elastic itself

Pin the end of the strand underneath the ponytail with a bobby pin

Finish with some hairspray on the sides and back of the hair

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I tend to watch daytime talk shows at night en masse. Sometimes they make me feel so normal. Sometimes they give me good ideas for writing. And sometimes they just freak me out. Like the show I saw recently (I think it was Oprah) where a father of teenaged kids admitted he couldn't give his wife oral sex because he'd watched the birth of his first daughter.Um.

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When it comes to the web industry (or computer industry for that matter) men generally rule the roost. In 2007 A List Apart published their web design survey results and found that out of nearly 33,000 professionals who participated, 82.8% were male while only 16.1% were female (1.1% gave no answer).

However, as I browse the web today I’m finding more and more inspirational and creative websites from females across the globe. Just because there are more men involved in the web community doesn’t mean that the best stuff comes from us. There’s a certain elegance, beauty and tone that the female touch can add to a design.

I’ve compiled a list of 25 26 female web designers who I believe are hot at web design and whose designs are an inspiration to the whole of the web design community.

Close to 33,000 web professionals answered the survey’s 37 questions, providing the first data ever collected on the business of web design and development as practiced in the U.S. and worldwide.

33,000 responses is a lot of data. To make sense of it, An Event Apart commissioned statisticians Alan Brickman and Larry Yu to translate raw data into meaningful findings. Here we present what they found.

Like many aspects of web design itself, our research process took the form of a dialog and included multiple stages of discovery. Preliminary findings answered some questions and raised others requiring additional study. The more we unearthed, the deeper we dug.

The attached report shares everything we learned. We offer it freely to this community that has given us so much. For the curious, we also provide an “anonymized” version of the raw data. It contains every answer to every question by every respondent, excluding only personal information—no names, just the facts. Crunch it yourself and tell us what you find.

We did not learn everything we hoped to. Ambiguities in some parts of the survey yielded ambiguities in some data. After an analysis of the survey itself, we now possess detailed recommendations for improving future surveys.

The findings we present here have never been seen before, because until now, no one has ever conducted public research to learn the facts of our profession. This report is not the last word on web work; it is only the beginning of a long conversation. Read, reflect, and let us hear from you.

By :- Chicago Website Design

Sumner Lemon, IDG News Service
Dec 22, 2008 10:00 am

Shanghai police have detained a woman for allegedly filming herself having sex and then posting the video on the Internet, where it became a sensation among Chinese Internet users.

"Huang was detained by police on suspicion of disseminating pornographic materials," the Shanghai Public Security Bureau (PSB) said in a statement (in Chinese) that identified the woman only by her surname, Huang.

Pornography is illegal in China, but remains widely accessible on the Internet. The PSB statement, released Friday, did not say when Huang was detained.

Shanghai police said Huang's video, called 'East Building Kappa Girl,' first appeared online sometime before the end of October and spread quickly among Chinese Internet users. The name of the video is an apparent reference to the sportswear section of a Shanghai department store where Huang worked.

"Based on incomplete statistics, in November alone tens of thousands of Internet users searched on Baidu for information about Kappa Girl every day," the PSB statement said, referring to China's most popular Internet search engine.

Huang hoped to capitalize on her notoriety by selling interviews and advertising space on her blog, the official China Daily newspaper reported on its Web site. On her blog, Huang offered to give interviews for 30,000 yuan (US$4,364), the report said.

Source: PC World

Causes of ovarian cysts are many. During a normal menstrual cycle, the ovaries develop follicles each month. Estrogen and progesterone, two hormones which support pregnancy, are produced by these follicles. If a normal follicle continues growing for an extended period of time ovarian cysts can result.

Among ovarian cysts, follicular cysts are the most prevalent. They hardly ever produce any symptoms and usually resolve by themselves. They are usually harmless. Follicular ovarian cysts are usually caused when the pituitary gland hormones that stimulate egg release by the ovaries cause the follicle to swell instead. The enlarged follicle develops into a cyst.

Frequent causes of ovarian cysts occur when luteinizing hormones surge and an egg is release. When the egg is released, estrogen and progesterone are created by the ruptured follicle to prepare for the hypothetical conception. When the egg is sealed off, fluid accumulates inside the follicle and becomes what is called a corpus luteum. The corpus luteum will then expand and at that point becomes a cyst.

Corpus luteum cysts usually disappear on their own without treatment within a few weeks. In the meantime, however, it can grow to nearly 4 inches in diameter. It can also bleed into itself or twist the ovary. This can cause severe pelvic and abdominal pain. Moreover, if the corpus luteum cyst fills with blood, the cyst may rupture. This can cause internal bleeding and sudden, sharp pain.

It is important to note that the fertility drug clomiphene citrate, which is commonly used to induce ovulation, might be one of the causes of ovarian cysts, since it can often increase the risk of the development of a corpus luteum cyst. Corpus luteum cysts do not prevent or threaten pregnancy.

Some cysts, such as hemorrhagic or endometrioid cysts develop like other cysts but are classified as such because they contain blood. This blood can result from injury or from the leakage of blood vessels into the egg sac. Causes of ovarian cysts forming in the endometrial tissue include bleeding and sloughing off of endometrial tissue that transplants itself in the ovaries. Blood eventually builds up, rupturing and causing pelvic pain.

While you can't prevent the actual causes of ovarian cysts from occurring, certain steps can be taken to improve your overall health. Increasing exercise, controlling stress, improving your diet, and regular checkups with your gynecologist can all help reduce the chances of developing ovarian cysts.

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According to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, there are some 6.1 million people troubled by infertility issues. Within this number, there is a same amount of percentage of infertility issues affected both men and women, which is 40% respectively. 20% of the 6.1 million people are related to unknown causes to infertility.

There is various length of causes of women infertility. Causes such as ovarian and ovulation problems, tube or peritoneal causes, hypothalamic-pituitary causes, cervical, vaginal and uterine problems, and genetic causes are specific causes that are affecting women fertility worldwide.

What are those internal causes?

Women suffering from diabetes, thyroid or any other defects of the livers and kidneys are factors that are causing infertility to many modern women. Besides that, women should take note on the psychological or mental issues that are causing infertility to them. Another cause of infertility is women having ovulation disorder, it is either they are not ovaluating at all, or they may ovulate irregularly compared to the normal ovulation during the 28-day cycle.

Povary syndrome (PCOS), ovarian neoplasm, diminished ovarian reserve, luteal dysfunction, premature menopauses and Turner syndrome are some ovarian causes that affects a woman infertility. These factors actually prevent the release of a mature egg from the ovaries, or having homonal imbalances, or reproduction of eggs that may lead to chromosomal defects. Above all, peritoneal factors also can be a cause of infertility among women. This includes the uterine lining (the endometrial tissue) growing outside the uterus, and/or the blockages of egg from travelling to the uterus.

Another causes of women infertility are Hypothalamic-pituitary factors, which would include the common hypopituitarism, hyperprolactinemia, kallmann syndrome and other hypothalamic dysfunctions.

Problems from the cervical, vaginal and uterine could be one of the cause of infertility.

Sperms not able to travel to the tubes and vaginismus due to vaginal obstruction. This problem will cause infertility. Other than vaginal problems, there are cervical problems which include the side effects of anti-sperm antibodies, insufficient cervical mucus which is needed for the sperm to travel and survive.

Are you taking note of external causes?

Having explained what are the internal causes of infertility. There is some factors that should be discussed that will cause women infertility. Avoid taking in, food perservatives and additives such as monosodium glutamate (MSG), side effects of cosmetics chemicals, alcohol, coffee, tea, cigarette or its smoke, and many others external factors.

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Through the use of microsurgery a woman can have tubal ligation reversal surgery carried out, which requires that they stay in hospital for only 1 or 2 days. This will then give their body's sufficient time to recover from the operation. It is also important that for several weeks after the operation they restrict and prevent themselves from carrying out any kind of strenuous physical activity. However when it comes to their ovulation cycles after tubal reversal surgery, many women do not actually understand what is happening with their bodies in this respect.

On average it will take around 4 to 6 weeks for a woman's reproductive organs to heal properly and fully after tubal reversal surgery has been carried out. Yet even though their cycles are almost back to normal after the surgery has been completed, it is best for them to wait until they have gone through a couple of their ovulation cycles before they attempt to get pregnant.

Although it is usually best to wait for a couple complete cycles after tubal reversal surgery, some women discover they quickly become pregnant, maybe even as soon as there first cycle. Then there are the others who discover that even after six months or more, they still haven't become pregnant.

If it has been six months or more and they have not gotten pregnant, then it is best to have a doctor check for other concerns that may be affecting the woman and why she can't conceive. Sometimes, it comes down to the length of time from the original operation to have the tubes tied. It just seems to be easier for those that have more recently had the original operation than for those who may have had it ten or more years ago.

What a doctor will do, if after 6 months and the woman is still having difficulty actually getting pregnant, is inspect her fallopian tubes again to see if they are fully open and nothing untoward has happened since the procedure took place. If they discover that these are okay, then there may be some other underlying cause which is preventing the woman from getting pregnant. Women who are worried or become anxious because they are not getting pregnant as soon as they would like will often find it much more difficult to conceive than those that don't.

Sometimes they find that just because they have a period, it doesn't actually mean that ovulation is taking place. What this means in the end, is that even if they are late, it doesn't necessarily mean they are pregnant. Any woman with enough years knows that even the smallest upset in patterns and schedules can throw your system and cycles off.

Many doctors once a woman has become pregnant after they have had tubal reversal surgery will want to keep an eye on their patients in case they suffer from tubal pregnancy. This is very rare and only around 3 to 5% of all women who have this particular form of surgery are likely to suffer from an ectopic (tubal) pregnancy.

Knowing when you are ovulating, and when you may actually have conceived, it is best to utilize an ovulation prediction kit in the cycles after tubal reversal surgery. Lastly, if you find you are late by two days, go get a pregnancy test done by your doctor.

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The older we get it seems like the older our skin looks. More wrinkles appear all the time. To practice prevention of this aging problem, we have to learn how to keep this from happening. So let's study why this condition can happen when we age. I will also talk about some treatments for this condition.

The epidermis or top layer of skin becomes less dense with age. This occurs when the epidermal cells lose their ability to bond. This also causes the skin to retain less moisture. Production of these cells also slows down making it harder for the skin to repair itself. One of the many things that happen because of this is wrinkles. The epidermal is not the only layer that affects this though the dermal layer can also age.

There is a thinning that happens in the dermal layer that can cause some problems. The collagen production is severely hampered and the skin has less ability to stretch. This can cause the skin to fold or crinkle. The sebaceous glands become less active therefore not enough sebum is produced causing the skin to dry. Even our sweat glands get less in quantity which can make the skin dryer.

Products are on the market in cream form to treat wrinkles. I know there are creams that correct the problem, there are also creams that are for increasing the tightness of the skin. Facelift creams are available for an instant effect too. Creams for maximum moisturizing for the dryness are readily available too these days. I would use one of these creams to combat this problem before considering a medical alternative for this.

You can go to a professional and get shots of botulinum toxin A this sometimes helps eliminate wrinkles at least temporarily. I shudder at the thought of needles though so I would probably not choose this for myself. You can get acid peels with glycolic acid if you that appeals to you. This can leave the face smooth after it heals from the peel. Whatever choice you make read material on it to make up your mind. The doctor and or location you choose should be researched on their credentials too.

Be sure to drink your water every day. Six to eight glasses of water. Since the skin getting drier promotes wrinkles you need to nourish your skin with natural moisture of within. I hope that I have given you some good ideas to help keep the your skin healthy. Have a happy healthy and hopefully wrinkle free life.

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While experiencing ovarian cyst symptoms can help to diagnose the existence of an ovarian cyst, simply having the symptoms is not necessarily a confirmation of its existence. Only having experience with one symptom is not a cause for action in most cases, but once you begin to show multiple ovarian cyst symptoms it is time for you to talk to a medical doctor.

An unusual menstrual cycle can point to the possibility of having cysts, particularly if up until this time the menstrual period has always been predictable. Therefore, anything out of the ordinary during a cycle can be an indicator: symptoms of ovarian cysts might include excessive bleeding, irregular menstruation, or spotting in between periods. In addition, there might also be unexplained weight gain.

Pelvic pain, such as dull aching in the lower back and thighs are common ovarian cyst symptoms. This pain may begin shortly before or after a period. It may also occur during intercourse or strenuous exercise. Pain and pressure both in the abdomen and in the pelvic area can be caused by the size, bleeding, bursting or twisting of a cyst. This can irritate the abdominal tissues and block the flow of blood to the cyst.

Symptoms similar to those of pregnancy, like nausea, vomiting, and tenderness of the breasts, are common symptoms of ovarian cysts. It is worth mentioning that other symptoms can distinguish between pregnancy and ovarian cysts. Infertility, for example, is itself a common symptom of ovarian cysts.

There are a good number of signs that point towards the possibility of having ovarian cysts. There might be sudden and random onsets of sharp abdominal pain and a sensation of abdominal heaviness. The woman might also experience abdominal bloating, have difficulty urinating, and sense a feeling of pressure on her bladder or rectum.

All that most ovarian cysts need is time in order to go away. Some ovarian cyst symptoms, however, can be more urgent and need immediate treatment at a medical facility. These would be severe abdominal or pelvic pain that flares suddenly, shortness of breath, pain or fever with vomiting, and weakness or faintness that appears quickly.

Ovarian cyst symptoms are not clearly and easily detected and their very nature makes it extremely difficult for them to be detected by a general practitioner in a routine examination. Cysts can be detected without the show of any symptoms but in the case of ovarian cysts they are usually detected during a patient's annual Pap smear rather than because the patient exhibited any symptoms.

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Every year in the U.S. alone hundreds of thousands of women are persuaded to undergo tubal ligation surgery. The number varies depending upon the source but of those women who do this, many will decide they want to reverse the surgery. The premiere place to do so is the Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center.

Maybe the best thing about the center is that tubal reversals are the only type of surgery done there. You won't have to withstand any efforts by the staff or doctors to push you toward having an in vitro fertilization either which is a more expensive option and possibly less effective alternative. They do tubal reversals, period. Not vasectomy reversals and not IVF. As the tubal reversal surgery is all they do, you have an extremely well versed staff. They have the experience no one else does.

The head surgeon of the Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center is Dr. Gary Berger. You will not find anyone else that has the background, education and training that he has within the tubal reversal field. As Dr. Berger performs the tubal reversal microsurgery four times a day, five days a week, no one can begin to match the number of reversed tubes he has repaired. He even trained under Dr. Winston. Check out his background on drbergertubal.com yourself and see no one can match it.

The surgical technologists are the ones who keep the operating room all to rights. They ensure the operating room works correctly, that everything is sterile as it should be and that the room itself is meticulous. You wouldn't recognize them if you saw them because you will not usually see them. They are in the operating room with masks on so you can't see their faces. Besides you will be asleep in the operating room. The first assistant has been on Dr. Berger's staff and worked with him for eighteen years. Does your surgeon have the same staff after eighteen years?

Long term staff goes for the Director of Anesthesia at the center as well. Dr. Caryn Hertz has worked at the center since 1995 following her five year stint at Duke University Medical Center. That she worked at Duke and now works with the staff at Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal should show what a top notch doctor she is. Again, this long term association with the team will mean your surgery is in great hands. No wondering just how much experience the anesthesiologist that your luck of the draw at some hospital will pull up.

Looking at the nursing staff next will again show you the quality of the people who work at CHTRC. Some have been there long term as well. What really matters is how much they really care for the women who come to the center looking for a second chance at having a baby. Most likely it's the nursing staff who will talk to you and answer your questions. You can even talk to them via the message board at forums.tubal-reversal.net.

With that quick look at the staff, let's talk quickly about the message board at forums.tubal-reversal.net. You will be able to ask questions there if you wish. Sure, you can call the office and get answers. However, at the message board you can talk to some of CHTRC's other patients. You will meet other women thinking about getting a tubal reversal or who are saving up to pay for one. You can also talk to women who have already had it done and have had their precious little miracles as well. The staff watches the board to answer your questions and even Dr. Berger drops by now and then to help out.

Another thing about CHTRC is that they will follow up with you for up to one year. They will make phone contact to talk to you and see how things are going. They do this at six months as well and a few other times more closely to the actual surgery as well. Using what they learn from you, and all the other women, they are able to provide statistics about the success rates to other women who are looking at the surgery as well. But forget about those statistics. How many surgeons do you know that has someone following up with their patients up to a year after surgery just to know what is going on? That's just another mark of the care and professionalism you will encounter at the Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center.

The article tells you that the Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center is the best place for a tubal reversal. Do your own looking at the www.tubal-reversal.net site. Check out the recommendations on the web and browse our message board.

Have you heard this coming from the cracked and bleeding lips of the victim who is abused? Have you ever tried to find the words to help them through their grief and anger when they their love does not keep the whole house of cards? There are no answers when someone asks you how can I walk away when I love them so much? How can I just leave them on my vows any my promises? We are here to talk about loving you first and how love isn’t supposed to punch or frighten.

We love the present incarnation and weakness of others which protect hem from harm, losses, and diminishment in anyway possible. The understanding of love help us to deal both love and our pain, on the other hand it helps us to love our attackers, without a disparate feeling and we stand in their side for the better and worse, in sickness and health. In most of the cases the spiritual teaching and love of often goes unheard, this is because you cannot be teach love, it comes from the true divine nature of the others.

Violence, anger, spite, amice, denigration, and exploitation these are greater than a physical damage done to the victim. The reason being when we harm other, indirectly we are harming you far more. No matter how right their intent is taking violence in hand is not the right choice, its like breaking his own hand with a rod they picked to strike their enemies.

There are many of non-violence spiritual sects and religion stand precisely because they believe in non-violence and preach love among the individuals and give the concept like love your enemies. Aikido is a martial art and it only teaches throws, holds, and blocks. This does not provide students any skill to injure the enemy they just help them to safeguard themselves until the enemy get hurt by his own violence. This is the same in case of love too; It not only protects the people from harming us but also helps safekeeping the attacker as well.

It doesn’t mean that we should allow some to abuse us and allow harming us until they harm themselves. Getting one step back from influence is not a betrayal but it is considered to be a supreme love. It is like preventing a person from harm to one that we hold dear to our heart. This is same as a child repeatedly hurts itself in a hot stove or a sharp instrument. We should not allow our weakness and silence to continue until it harms you more and which hurts your soul.

If we love any one, then we should not hurt them and it is the divine energy that is the soul, we should protect them as any other loved ones from self-injury and danger. There are some cases where we are willing to walk into loss and loneliness to preserve their soul. This is because we don’t want to harm them because we know we are going to harm our self by harming them.

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An ad for a health club caught my attention when I was reading a newspaper. There was a beautiful picture of an attractive lady who was well dressed and who was pregnant. She has been married for 12 year and has 2 kids on the way. She has her own business; she takes care of the family and also makes time for herself by dropping her kiddies in the health club room.

In the same paper and another article was also there about a female pediatric orthopedic surgeon. The first thing mentioned in the paper was that she thinks life is beautiful and enthusiastic. She was a star athlete in high school and still participates in triathlons. She got married to her high school sweet heart, and they have two children. In the article she tells that she came from a hard working family and her mother even though she was working as a surgeon had plenty of time to spare with their children. It was also mentioned that in spit of her busy schedule, she finds plenty of time for her children and husband they routinely go skiing and mountain biking together.

When I read both about the health club and article about the surgeon I have evoked in me a mixture of envy, insecurity, and guilt. The reason being as a professional woman with a law degree, a good job, stable marriage and a beautiful daughter the life was miserable most of the time. How can other women able to be juggle even though they are working and why don’t I find time for my family.

Then after having a second child I realized that all the women are same. An ordinary woman like me feels difficult to cope up with work and managing the family. The feeling would be the same for the hair colorist to the medical doctors. I came across articles in which women leave their jobs just to raise their children, and the use of nannies and the struggles by one or more female characters.

There are lots of changes in the women’s life and she wants to adjust herself according to the situation. I heard a student addressing a nationally syndicated program that once she gets married she would leave her profession and take care of her children and family. This is because her mother was working and she was raised in child care, and she doesn’t want her children to go through all the difficulties which she had.

Most of the women after getting married prefer to be at home and take care of their children. This has increased in 2000 census and there has been an increase of 13% in the last decade. The motors aged 25 to45 stay at home workless, professional women, between a quarter and third are out of the work force.

I’m not trying to make women who work outside the home guilty or ashamed for their choices either. I am aware of the reality, why should a women paint themselves into a corner. You should feel equally important as your husband without having to live in their world. Don’t let anyone make you feel anything less than proud of having the courage to live the life you need.

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Women are not the same as they were earlier. In earlier generation women were not independent or powerful as women are today. This was when I want to enroll myself for a mechanical drawing course. But for this I want to get permission form the school board they asked me reason why I need this course which is meant for boys. But now things have changed but we can’t tell that there has been a vast change.

Women have majority of work to do like child care, housework, decorating, shopping, and cooking. But men do not do these things and this doesn’t come in their daily routine. Even if the women is working she has to manage to do all these works and it is considered to be her own work.

Women are complicated creature they need everything but they don’t tell what they really want. We say equal right for men and women. This does not mean that equal pay for equal work; divide housework and cooking, shared child care. The fact is most women want things to be done by them. Women just want man to read their minds. Understand their situations. For example if a man is sending a flower she wants him to know what type of flowers to be sent and when. She wants him to understand her moods without telling him what it is. Statement like anything you can do, I can do just as good doesn’t mean that she can fix a car, take out the trash, pound nails etc.

How many of you give up yourself for your relationship does matter. Do you wait for a special phone call from your love by passing up engagements with your friends? Do you agree things you don’t want just because you can’t say no?

I had a client named C, she was in a worry because her sister is coming for a visit and she is going to stay with her for two weeks. She is worried because she will not be able to afford it. The reason being his sister wants to go to expensive pleases and she doesn’t bring any money with her because she is unemployed. C is in a fear that she will end up with debt for months after she leaves. This is due to the self-centered behavior of her sister because she is crossing her limits and really intensify problem. We worked out some strategies for C they are,

1. Tell her sister that she is extremely happy on her visit.

2. Set some boundaries for the visit.

3. Make your sister to pay for her own expenses on her visit.

4. You can let your car to her on two conditions; you need the car to go to the office and return, your sister should pay for her own gas. If she is not happy then she can rent her own car.

5. Parties are allowed only during week end, because she need 8 hours sleep because she works at night.
C was not happy with this parameter because she felt that this would stop her sister visiting her.

It is difficult to tell what your personal limits are and afraid that you will hurt their feelings. If you don’t have your boundaries then it is sure that they are going to take advantage on you. Remember you are responsible for what happens in your life.

So,
Learn to set boundaries.
Learn to clarify what you want.
Learn to ask for what you want.

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